Leave Self-Doubt at the Door: Four Steps to Pursuing Your Best Life

Written by Spirit

Passion is contagious and when you pursue your passion you make the world a better place. Not only do the people around you benefit, you are guaranteed to live a happier, healthier life. So it’s simple: live your passion and create a life of purpose and fulfillment.

Unfortunately, many of us never pursue our passions due to self-doubt and a fear of failure. The roadblocks we encounter are self-induced and, more often than not, completely made-up. Use these tools to overcome imaginary hurdles and realize your own greatness. Stop putting your passion on the back burner and live the life you’ve always wanted!


1 . Kill Negative Self-Talk

It’s easy to down talk yourself. “I’m not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough…” the list can go on and on. You can be your own worst critic, but you have the potential to be your own biggest fan. Changing the way you talk to yourself will completely change your life.

To fight back against your inner critic, you first have to identify it and separate it from yourself. Recognize destructive thought patterns and shut them down as soon as they begin.

When you notice negative self-talk, counter it by repeating the opposite to yourself. If you think, “I’m not smart enough, I’ll never be able to accomplish anything”, counter it with “I am smart enough. I can do anything I set my mind to” and repeat it several times. Repeat it until you believe it, because it’s the truth!


2 . Boost your self-esteem

Everything changes when you change your perception of yourself. Once you believe you can accomplish anything, you really can. You are the only one limiting yourself and you have the power to release the grip.

Try this exercise: write your name in the centre of a paper and draw several lines out. Start writing down qualities you like about yourself. Write down your favourite physical traits (great smile, bright eyes) as well as qualities you love about yourself (compassionate, great friend, thrifty, creative). Keep writing until you have at least 10 items, and then keep going! Add to the list as you think of more.

If this exercise is difficult for you, try asking a friend or family member for help. You’ll be surprised at how easily people identify qualities in you that you don’t see yourself. Keep this for reference when you are feeling low to remind yourself of how amazing you really are.


3 . Discover who you are

An aspect of self-esteem is knowing who you are and what you want from life. Spend some time getting to know yourself. Ask yourself some big questions. Find out what drives you. The more you know about who you are, where your values lay, and what you want from life, the more clearly you can see yourself and the person you want to become.

Set aside time to sit down with a journal and respond to the following prompts:

  • What are you good at?
  • What are your best qualities?
  • What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
  • How would you spend your time if money were no object?
  • What is your biggest motivator?
  • Who do you idolize and why?
  • What does your best life look like?
  • What are you afraid of?

Answer openly and honestly. Your answers can be three sentences or three pages in length. Dive deep and get to know yourself. Before you can pursue your passion, you need to have a clear idea of what it is you’re all about.


4 . Take a step, no matter how small

Take a step towards pursuing your passion. Sign up for a class. Create a blog. Step outside of your comfort zone. No matter how small the action, it is setting you up for pursuing your passion and living out your purpose. Small actions snowball and create big things!

A good place to begin is just by saying it out loud. Tell everyone who will listen what you want. They say that when you want something, the whole universe conspires to help you get it. Say it aloud and watch the magic unfold!


Remember, you are the author of your own story. Your contribution matters and you are doing yourself, and the rest of us, a great injustice by not sharing what you have to give. Tune into your personal power and unleash your greatness unto the world!

Last modified: October 24, 2017